Pretty much all textbook answers as I can see. You know this Frank. Don't let the lies dampen your spirit. You know the man you are. Vunerable, yes. We all are. That's what makes us human. But the winners are the ones that get back up, dust themselves off, and press on.
It always has been about getting back to saving you. You can hope that the marriage will be restored in the process, but you can't make the marriage your ultimate hope. I agree that it is unimaginably difficult to detach when something is in your face every day. That's why I think so many have encouraged you to get out, forge some new relationships, make yourself accountable to some new people. You need some healthy distractions. IMHO if it's not possible for you to get her out of the house, you get out of the house. I'm not saying move out, that would be wrong. Find things that require you to not be around. Sure, you've got to take care of your girls, but if you lose Frank, you're not much help to them anyway.
Challenge yourself - A new school semester is approaching - go enroll in a class at your local community college, something that interests you, maybe a new programming language, something. Create a distraction.
