I did talk with her on the phone a little while ago. I remained calm and pretty upbeat. Found out she is working from home tomorrow so I guess I will be seeing her soon. I got to get some more stuff done before the detective comes over. I have pretty much been letting the anger seep out. I should be able to be in a good place tomorrow.
-But what you're going for is "Yes, I love you, but I am no longer to allow myself to be disrespected this way, and my own emotional health is more important to me right now than my need to have you in my life. So I must protect myself, and protect our kids, and I can assure you, I will do both."-
It is not easy to find the middle. That helped though.
-If it helps motivate you any better, know that the CALMER YOU ARE, the MORE IT WILL PISS HER OFF.-
Yes, that has worked well in the past. She does get angrier if I do stay calm and don't fall into her traps.
A warrior does not give up on what he loves, he finds the love in what he does
