Please help me to not give up............

[TwinDad]

Yikes! I'm scared.

Of course you are, there is alot at stake here. The good news is, once you start to see baby steps.....this will start to take away some of the fear and build confidence that you can make this work

I am, as of now, considering moving back into my home. She has mentioned recently( mostly as a result of my youngest son saying that he wanted to see me more of me ) that perhaps I could move back home to look after my boys, and she would move out.

I'm really thinking about the 2 day thing TD, but if I do make moves to go home, and my wife feels she has to move out, my opportunity to control if, and when I go to work becomes very difficult if she won't be at the family home to take care of them in my absence.

What your W is telling me is that she is giving you blueprint on how you can possibly repair this rift. She will tell you not to have any hope, etc she doesn't want to lead you on, mainly because she is probably confused and is erring on the side of safety (which for her is leaving). At the same time she is testing you. Move back home...she is asking you to.

Send a Message!
- Family is the most important thing in my life!!!
- This is my home!
- This is my family! (kids now....W will come later)

Tell your W "I really want to move back home and take care of the boys". Before you do this find out what your options are at work; Maybe working 2 long days with one over night and two short days while commuting, maybe working from home a day or two. You seem like you have a pretty independent job so you might have a lot of flexibility.

Disucss these options with your W, see what she suggests. When discussing these options have a very good PMA! You want to make this work (taking care of the kids), not find reasons of why it can't. Try to let her lead this discussion as much as possible. She likely has ideas since she knows about your job and she knows what she has requested. Perhaps she could watch the kids or two days a week while you are in London in the family home or at her sisters.

You should feel happy that your W wants you to come take care of the kids....if you don't do you think she knows someone who will? (not meaning to throw a jab....but they are your kids!)

I appreciate you asking about my sitch. What I listed in your thread was from the past. Things are going exceptionally well.

Just curious, how old are your boys?