Trixi trying to find moorage

[NikB]

Cool - I agree, I thought it was mostly positive too but just wanted to get your take.

I guess I thought it was the opposite of the advice given because I didn't decline his last minute invite. AND, we had yet another R talk.

OK.. the R talk yes, it was too much. Although the "king" thing was GREAT. I think it went a little too long (the "be a man" stuff might've been too much), but you were SO much stronger here. Still a ways to go like Dom said, but way better.

Dom pointed out the "problem" very well. The "who loves who more" contest basically turned into you confirming that you're grateful for the scraps.

On the invite - I think the REASON you accepted it is important. It was a genuine invite, not a half-a$$ed offer to appease you by spending some time with you. I still stick with my suggestion to decline his invites sometimes. But decline the ones that suck, not the ones that are genuine and feel like a "real" date.