CL, What further sign would you expect to see from W to move things on a bit further.
It could be that you need the sleeping away to stop on the other hand W may need a higher level of intermacy from you before that happens.
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The sleeping elsewhere is an intimacy reducer. I don't think there's any way around that.
However, if we add intimacy enhancers in other aspects of the M, maybe we can compensate for the intermittent sleeping elsewhere behavior.
Otherwise, as you say, we have this vicious cycle of her waiting for intimacy, and me waiting for the sleeping elsewhere to stop.
Maybe that's the way to think of my situation. The goal would be to add intimacy enhancers, rather than thinking of taking the seemingly large step of having sex. I will give this further thought and hopefully take some small steps.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
