At age 8 none of the kids should have enemies. I would have a conference with the teacher and the principal now and either get the class switched, or make them aware to be on the lookout for trouble. My son was picked on in 2nd grade and developed schoolphobia and never got over it. He eventually dropped out of school in high school. They need to have at least one friend at school, and school has to be a place that they look forward to going to. She needs to feel welcome in the classroom.
Hi there! In your own words, BLECKY to seeing exOW. My stomach turns every time I think of ever seeing OW again.
So happy to hear that D6 is getting the teacher she wanted. Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy! Bummer that you'll have a limited time with her though. You mentioned going on days. Can you do that soon or are you set to start on days at a certain date?
I'm sorry you were feeling so sad the other day. I was reading but not posting......keep you in my thoughts and my heart though! It's hard when things actually happen. So many times I said, yep, I'm ready. Then this happens or that happens, reality hits and it sucks!! I don't know which would be harder, to see your H happy or to see him miserable, as he is.
Well, I hope you have a great day today. Smile, okay!!
Take care- SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Can you do that soon or are you set to start on days at a certain date?
I have to wait for a day position to open up, apply for it, then actually get it. Could be awhile. But I keep my hopes up!
**** I had a thought last night. I am ready to let OW go. Let the anger, the bitterness, the raw hurt go. I admit I would be feeling VERY different if she was still with H. But I am tired of worrying about seeing her, and blaming her. I have shifted. This time last year, I blamed her more, which isn't fair, since she didn't owe me anything (even if she was my friend). H owed me the loyalty. I blame him more now for the A than I do her.
I don't want to hate her. I still have moments of anger and hurt, but they are few and far between when it comes to former OW, that I realized I am wasting my time.
I am ready to let OW go. Let the anger, the bitterness, the raw hurt go. I admit I would be feeling VERY different if she was still with H. But I am tired of worrying about seeing her, and blaming her. I have shifted. This time last year, I blamed her more, which isn't fair, since she didn't owe me anything (even if she was my friend). H owed me the loyalty. I blame him more now for the A than I do her.
You are really something. I don't even feel anything close to that about OM. True, he did't owe me any loyalty, but I can't forgive anyone who would pursue a R with someone who is already in a committed R, let alone someone who is M'd. You continue to be a role model for us all.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
H is so selfish. So self absorbed. Its all about him. All of it. I have been telling him he cannot stay at the house on the weekends (when he goes out to bars). Last weekend, he honored my boundaries, as he did Friday night. Last night, at 2am, I hear him come in and go to sleep on the couch. Then at 4am, I hear his phone alarm going off, and after 5 minutes I had to get up and tell him to shut it off. I was fuming. I said nothing, as its not good for anyone to confront at 4am in a t-shirt and messy hair but I will be talking to him
He is just so unattractive in many ways to me. His self centered attitude, his cocky attitude, or even his 'poor me' attitude. I am so much better with him not around. I feel like he is living his life, moving on, yet I have NO room to move on. I can't breathe. UGH In so many ways I want this D now, so he can stop hurting me as a wife. I am so much safer with H as a friend only.
Blah blah blah
Good things:
The girls and I spent the entire day outside doing all the fun stuff: scootering (D6 loves her new Razor), biking, walking, chalking, talking... Ordered pizza and had it delivered to the driveway with a bunch of neighbors. I fell asleep exhausted and peaceful, as did my babies.
You will definately have to tell him enough. No more coming to the house to "crash" . It time for him to stop this crap. Be firm with him and change the locks if you have to. You don't need this constient torment.
Let us know how you are..
Glad you had a good day wit the girls... love those days
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I agree. If he wants to move on, he needs to move on. His idea of moving on but hanging aound is insensitive, almost cruel. Doesn't mean your R with him needs to be hostile. But it needs to reflect the current situation without cake eating.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
He is just so unattractive in many ways to me. His self centered attitude, his cocky attitude, or even his 'poor me' attitude. I am so much better with him not around. I feel like he is living his life, moving on, yet I have NO room to move on. I can't breathe. UGH In so many ways I want this D now, so he can stop hurting me as a wife. I am so much safer with H as a friend only.
Did you get a good look at him? Cause it was dark, right? I think that my ex may be crashing on your couch! GOOD LUCK at getting him to leave!
So lwb, you've gotten great advice. Change the locks if you have to. This may be your time for tough love and to take a stand. What he's doing is insensitive and downright crule. Not that he cares 1 iota about that, but only you can change the dance. He won't, and in his mind why should he, he's got everything jsut the way HE wants. I know we're singing to the choir. You already know that this is wrong and you also know what you have to do to make lwb's life whole and happy again, and this ain't it!
You're strong and you've got it all over him. Let that inner Biatchy Goddess out. He'll probably SH@T when you do...hahahaha
Love, Bethie (Pineapple are $2.48 at H Vee this week. Just sayin')
but I will be talking to him
Ordered pizza and had it delivered to the driveway with a bunch of neighbors. I fell asleep exhausted and peaceful, as did my babies.