I'm back after a long absence

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Okay all I need some advice. H is willing to work on this, but he said he needs to feel connected to me, he needs the spark, he said he can't remember what the spark was when we got together, he said we have fun together and work well together and that sort of thing, but he said we have some incompatabilities, like he is introverted and I am extroverted. He told me some things that really bother him that I do, and I am going to try hard to change those, being flirty for example.

I need to put on my big girl pants and find the best me and put it out there, if it is not going to work then, well at least I know I did all I could.

We had a really hard night, a lot of hard things to talk about, but we got them out on the table, we know the score so now we can try to work it out, he said he is going to try, he is willing to go to counseling and give this a shot.

I need help with ideas to re-ignite a lost spark.

Help please any suggestions are great because they get my mind started and headed in the right directions.