How was the vacation outside of the drama with your H. Did the kids have a good time? Did you get to take a tour of the city on a double decker bus or o to the White house? Did you have fun in the museums?
The tenson and forced communications are going to be there for awhile till you both get comfortable with the new way of interacting. Take it slow and be patient I know it is a lot of work and effort but if you can get thru this and rebuild you M it will all be worth it.