All I can say (because nothing you say to batchitt-crazy-woman will get through to her) is DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT.
Document when you guys came up with the agreement. Document when she told you she was going to her dad's Document when (and exactly what) she told you you couldn't have D
Big hugs....don't pop...you'll make a mess
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
She CANNOT deny your visitation. You can use your court order to force her to turn over your daughter. While it sucks to do it this way, you can have a sherriff accompany you to pick up D. If she fails to turn her over, you immediately file a ploice report to document it andthat lawyer that you are paying so much money to can use it to rework the visitation more to your advantage. Reality---If she pulls enough stupid crap, the courts can, (and often do) re-award costody to the noncustodial parent as a way of ensuring they are granted their rights.
edited to add:
Oh, and we can thank my WAH for that knowledge, since he is paying for me to go to school for Family Law !
SMW
Last edited by sadmilitarywife; 08/18/0802:12 PM.
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Let's step back and be reasonable on this. She is going away to see her dad, that's ok. Make a proposal that is fair and good for your daughter and offer it to her. Maybe this is an opportunity to establish a pattern of working together to bebetter coparents. Who knows, down the road you may want to go away for a weekend that is scheduled with your daughter and need her to be flexible..... Understand?
You are not allowed to pop. I am very sorry to hear that things have dropped to where they are. It is unfortunate that she seems to be resorting to using the visitation against you as well. All I can say is after a month or two you will feel better, not being constantly subjected to the crazy behavior. As far as your kids are concerned I would give her a couple of opportunities to meet the agreed upon visitation. If she fails to comply open fire with legal ramifications. Even if she is crazy, you will have to be the hero and let it go.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
I agree with strong arming it the way that SMW suggests, and yet I also see that Ian has made a really good case for being the "sane", responsible one. I guess that I would try that first (darn) and if that doesn't make a dent in that tiny brain of hers, I would threaten what SMW stated. Of course I'd just threaten her with it before I actually called anyone else in. No use in traumatizing your daughter if a threat can do the trick.
Don't ya just want to give her a good smack? I do....
Let's step back and be reasonable on this. She is going away to see her dad, that's ok. Make a proposal that is fair and good for your daughter and offer it to her. Maybe this is an opportunity to establish a pattern of working together to bebetter coparents. Who knows, down the road you may want to go away for a weekend that is scheduled with your daughter and need her to be flexible..... Understand?
Ian
OK guys I have worked something out with BS crazy STBX. It's not the best but it's not the worst either. Thanks Ian, Goodfight, Bethie, SMW, distressed and all others I have left out. and yes Ian..I do understand. I may be an ass at times but do try to put my "stuff" to the side for D.
I will get D tomorrow and Wednesday after daycare to make up for missing Thursday and Saturday, of course this makes me get less hours but what you gonna do? I can piss her off more than she is now by making her miss her trip and maybe risk not seeing D at all this week or I can bend and get what I can this week..bend is probably a bad word to use but it's how I see it.
I am simply overwhelmed at the moment.
Ian, I'm sorry that your's is Batchitt crazy too. I have read but did not post.
got the cell phone plan changed..I am golden there!!
HHHMM good idea Beth--we got the lumber around here for a good smack!
SMW
OK SMW,
Since M doesn't want to stoop to that level, maybe we can work something out! I'm kidding M I'm not a violent person but sometimes I can't help fantasizing! I know that there are women that do beat up there husbands. I just couldn't do that, but I used to think how lucky husband was that I wasn't totally nuts. I'm from Boston you know and that would never fly with the way I was raised. A girl can dream though!
Hows it going are you feeling better today now that you got your visitation with your D all worked out? Hopefully the crazy train has left the station without you.
I bought a case of beer for you and hide the cooler from these AA rejects.
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