Piecing Friends, It seems like if things are going to move forward, it's going to be because of my influence. The dance partnership creates and maintains connection, but not intimacy.
As poet Jane Hirshfield writes, "Rarely are what is spoken and what is meant the same." My W isn't one to communicate at an intimate level. I keep waiting for her to take the lead, but it's not going to happen.
I try not to take her minor tantrums to heart. She is trying to communicate something, but is doing it poorly. She doesn't regulate her moods well.
We've been more social as a couple lately. I wonder what people think of her? It's not for me to worry about.
At one of our dances, she was complaining to someone about my difficulty in getting the lesson at a prior venue. He obviously didn't care for her behavior.
After a practice session in which she seemed irritated with me, I told her that if she had expectations of our time, she needed to tell me, rather than be upset because I'm not practicing what she thinks I should. This statment got us back on track, and prevented what would have been a setback in the dance partnership.
She asked me to cuddle her last night in bed.
I've been thinking about a line from a poem by Jane Hirshfield:
Love would like to say to them, "Speak more fearlessly--this is the only--Say what you can."
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
