Your W was likely ugly and mean to you on the trip over because she was nervous. She didn't know how things were going to pan out, She knew some people knew and some didn't about your sitch but what does she really know about what happens behind the scenes when she isn't looking. She had fears. You DB'ed well
She loosened up and had fun with you afterwards because the party went much better than her fears expected. She was happy.
I think you know it, but the handling of the phone "issues" was pretty bad. If you truly felt the need to have a separate plan then just use the excuse you were initially talk about....you wanted to get an I-phone and leave it at that. Bringing up the OM does not make you look good in the least.
Now what did come out of that, that was good, was her telling you that you needed to trust her. Let me ask you this.....why should she care if you trust her if she is set on D?
When you got back to your place you should have just left a message with her parents saying you got in alright and left it at that. The rest of it just got you in trouble and was a backslide.
The good is that you no longer have a phone to worry about "checking up" on. I thought the two of you had been making some good progress in the last month. This was a backslide, but one that can be recovered from.
Some advice would be to put that OM out of your mind all together......chances are if you don't pay him any attention he will not have an impact on your M. If you want your W back. There is little you can do about it except trust her. Anything else will just push her in that direction. Search yourself and determine why you are doing this, don't let pride, stuborness, or fear get in your way of finding this out.
Best Wishes
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
