Sooners, Steelers is right, you may not see movement for months and months. Keep planting the seeds.
I know that it wassn't until about 18 months into this that h started to turn his ship this way if you can even call it that.
Your efforts may go undetected for a long time, but even if w doesn't return you can walk away and say I did all I can and feel good inside that you tried.
Stay the course and don't get discouraged. Your w may see your efforts, but will not say anything.
Have you read the 5 languages of love or something like that? It may give you some insight into what her preferred language is and you can try to appeal to that.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"