Thanks for stopping by my thread, your post was really true. I don't know what I was on with the whole name thing really. Although my family and family name is important to me (sisters, brother, parents etc) I was being quite immature and taking some kind of feminist view point or something.
Just reading your thread and it sounds like you are getting some really good advice. If the OW thing is not helping you reach your long term goal, I would let it go for now. I don't know why they lie or deceive, it only makes things worse IMO but they do and it isn't fair but there is not much we can do. When we pull them up on it their defences just go up and that brings us further away.
I hope you are feeling a little better. I see lots of positives in your sitch. I think Jen's advice above is really great.
