God give me the patience and the strength...6

[Dawn of Hope]

Okay...I'm wondering WTH? I wondering what's he thinking? I'm wondering what's going on? BUT! I'm changing nothing! I'm not asking. I'm not calling him. I'm not going to see him. I'm being as very still as I possibly can.
I have no idea why he was around so much this weekend, why he stayed here. But I know that this man is very confused and that he is thinking. It is what it is and there is nothing I can do except to leave him and alone and let him figure it out. I pray that he does. I guess we'll see.

toh,
I really am not trying to be harsh, here, but here's what I'm seeing...

Ummm...hasn't everyone been telling you for a while to LEAVE HIM ALONE to figure things out for himself, and you have kept saying, "I know, I know," and then then turning right around and contacting him, initiating R talks, etc., and basically ignoring this board's advice and then making excuses for why you're not doing what's recommended, and agonizing over the fact that he seems even more distant? It's fine to follow your own path if you have a good reason, but...you're finally following your fellow DBers' advice and now you're baffled by the fact that he's now treating you better! Helllooo, toh, has it occurred to you yet that the advice you have been given is WORKING now that you are actually taking it??!

I know it's difficult to leave him alone and not stir the pot. But it seems clear that if you want this R to be restored, you have GOT to stop muddying the waters by contacting him, questioning him, criticizing him, etc. What are you doing to GAL? It seems like you've spent so much time trying to force things in your M when they're not yet "cooked" that when you add in your everyday responsibilities, you haven't got any time left over for GAL.

Basic DBing: Do what works. Change what doesn't. Pretty straightforward (she says, while doing some spinning herself due to a lack of any movement in her own M!).

I hope you are not offended by my shooting from the hip. I also hope that other people on this forum will chime in and either verify my observations or correct them if I've misinterpreted or otherwise gone down a dead-end trail. I am often wrong, but willing to take constructive criticism.

I wish you only the best. Strength and courage, toh.

Peace,
Dawn