Onward but not so Upward right now

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Mishka,

I'm not sure about the time/alarm thing...he should be able to spend quality tume with his Dad? About you wanting him to stick to a time...I think its fair enough to not bring him back BEFORE a cetain time, say 6pm, so you know where you are and can plan your day and dont end up going home earlier than needed...but if they are out having a good time, then maybe its ok for him to stay LATER with his Dad? What difference does it make to you, as you would need to be home anyway, to be there for your son...so its not like he stops you being out. It might be good to let your H know that he can have him for as long as he wants to see him for in actuial fact..he is his son afterall, as long as you know in advance what he plans and he doesnt try and broing him back sooner?

I'm just saying, maybe separate the you and him, from the him and his son...his actions to do with your son arent about you, or trying to get to you, or wind you up? Its a boundary issue between you and H, but also, your son needs to feel its ok to spend time with his dad and he's not doing anything "wrong" by not being back at your house on time...I wonder if you are finding it hard, the idea of him being there, with your H and OW? Maybe there is a little of that going on too?

Well done for not responding, especially by text. All I could suggest is you arrange a proper time to discuss access arrangements with your son, text is not hte way to do it surely??

I could be barking up the wrong tree here, but I can see this is going to wind you up regularly and be painful for you.

Ali xxx