how did you two ever move from "dating exclusively", to "get married" in the first place?
Welllllll, we were living together and...well, gosh, not really sure how we made the transition. I only remember that he asked me on Valentine's day after dinner in front of our children. Before I could answer, his son goes "oh my God. OH My GOD! Really? Oh my GOD! Really, Dad?! Oh my God. Are you serious?" His ears got beet red and and he ran around the table in excitement. LOL!
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He's still in "you should be grateful that you have me" mode. <snip> See the problem?
Yeppers.
I really don't know HOW I would get someone to commit, it's been such a long time. ...and if we weren't actually married and I *hadn't* actually made a vow/commitment, I probably would have been out of here awhile ago. But the truth of the matter is that I do have 13.5 years with this man; and I did make a promise; and given that this is my first marriage- I am still hopeful that it will be my ONLY marriage. I suppose it's "easier" for him to contemplate divorce because he's already done it once.
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but you have a ways to go, before you are strong enough to jog him out of his current attitude when he talks like that.
Yeah. I'm not quite there yet-but my patience is dimishing. I may have to force his hand before I 'feel' strong enough.
Maybe Julie T. Pillow can help me thru it.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
