<<1) is there anything your husband did or said to get you to realize what you were doing was wrong?
You might get more responses if you phrased your question differently.
You assume that every WAW's actions are "wrong", there are numerous circumstances that each sitch is slightly different.
<<2) even though you left, were you still doubting your decision ? did you show it outwardly ? could he tell anyway ?
I didn't leave, but I doubted my decisions every second of every day.
<<<3) if you left for someone else, or wanted to leave but didn't have the guts til someone else showed interest, did it work out with OM ? if not, please explain why.
This question is just plain offensive.
<<<4) did your husband expose your affair to your family and people close to you? if so, what impact did it have on your train of thought?
No, but each time he threatened, it pushed me further away from him.
<<<5) even though you told your husband you didn't love him anymore, did you really ?
No, I really didn't. By the time I had decided I was done, he had destroyed any love I had for him.
<<<7) if you have a young child together, and I'm sure you considered staying for their sake, were they the deciding factor in coming back, or were your spouse's changes the reason ? none of the above ?
We have 4 kids. They are the only reason I stayed as long as I did. Now I stay because he's changed & is someone I can love & respect.
You might get more help if your questions are less confrontational, & more neutral.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
