I'm in a crappy mood about my own sitch, but I think I can empathsize with the name change thing. I was the same way...gave H crap about wanting to keep my own identity by keeping my own maiden name. I eventually did change my name, but I think my protests hurt him very deeply. In retrospect when I look back on it I think "what a bitch". To be very honest, I really didn't have any concern about my own identity I was just being a liberated woman and for what? So I could emasculate a man that at the time loved me so much it oozed from his every pore. What I wouldn't give for a small speckle of that love now.
Anyway, I'm getting wordsy...bottom line...email him from your married account...it's the little things...ya know? He obviously is fishing to see if you are trying to ditch his name. Knowing you aren't might make him feel good.
