aiming for a new me 10

[sleeper]

Darboyd,

The DO reconnect with their kids first. It's weird how mine had nothing to do with them for about a year. I never would have dreamed she would do something like that as her kids were always so important to her and she was so protecitve of them. In mlc theory I guess it makes sense though as they didn't have children when they were teenagers and going through these behaviors the first time.

They do feel guilt about their children. Mine also would buy expensive gifts occasionally for the kids. I don't think they are trying to buy love, but make up for the neglect they have displayed toward their children. And in true mlc form I think the gift buying is more about them relieving their own guilt.

Be cool Darboyd. Don't think of you and your H as anything more than friends now. From the mouth of my mlcer, they fear they will get our hopes up and hurt us again. Friends is a great place to start and if nothing more comes of it the future will be much easier than if you were enemies.