I can understand the confusion - join the club. My head was spinning for a while there, too.
Our initial DDay was June 2. I really struggled the weekend before and W at the last minute reluctantly agreed to put it off. Right afterward, though, she went dark. Wouldn't answer my calls, would talk to me. When she re-emerged a week later she basically told me putting it off was a mistake and we should reschedule our D. I learned that she was still seeing OM and really was ready to split and move on.
Our rescheduled DDay was July 21, but several days before she told me that she didn't want to D any more, that she had been unhappy with OM and had ended their R, and missed me and wanted to come back to our M. After quite a bit of time together trying to decide the best course of action, we cancelled the D process altogether, I cancelled my plans to move, and we have been together ever since.
So that's it in a nutshell!
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