Wow, every time I read your posts there is more and more progress. I am so happy for you.
Sounds like you have some hard decisions ahead of you. How much longer do you have in grad school? Are you doing a Masters or a PhD? I just ask because I know that some courses are more flexible than otehrs in terms of needing to actually be at the university, particularly if you are working on research. Is there a way to move and change jobs but still be able to make school work?
If it were me, I probably wouldn't change jobs until H commits as that is a massive leap of faith to make, UNLESS you actually want to change jobs anyway, and if you would be doing this with or without H. Maybe the first step (which you've probably already done) is looking into different options, i.e. different jobs. When you next talk with H about this, maybe (if it's not too much pressure) there could be some kind of agreed timeline around you changing jobs that could be part of this process? I assume it is going to take a good deal of time and effort to make that kind of change, and I assume that your H would understand that.
Please post after your next meeting with H!
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
