From one control freak to another, good luck with all of this! Have you been keeping a solutions journal? I might have mentioned I have mine in Excel. It is a control freak's/obsessive planner's dream. I make different tabs for the different days, and list experiments, positive, negative, and neutral things that I have tried. At first I was so stubborn that I continued some activities which were NOT good for the R, including pressuring about future plans because they made me feel good. However if you truly pay attention to your solutions journal, there is a lot of wisdom to be gained.
Sounds like you had a great date--you had not ONLY sex, but cuddling to go along with it. This is huge. We had sex 4 times over the last week before I left, but absolutely no cuddling. I thikn the cuddling says a LOT. The fact that he was also talking about his one on one counseling session is GREAT, really positive!
You mentioned something about "when it is time to move back in together". Has this actively been discussed? Is this yuor H's plan as well as your's?
I hope you are hanging in there this weekend.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
