Hi Neil, so are you saying that you were suspicions of some type of abuse b/c your W was unable to respond to your sexual love making? If she has never said anything or shown any other signs of someone that was abused, I would not think that her "not repsonding" would mean she had been abused. There are a lot of reasons that women don't respond to sex or aren't able to reach an orgasm,etc. There are a lot of women in that same boat that are not respondsive to their H's touch the way they would like to be, but it isn't b/c they were sexually abused.

Back to the books. There are a lot of good books that are recommended here on this site and I think it is great that we are allowed to do that all in the name of busting a divorce. If there are some special problems in addition to the normal problems of M, S, and D, then yes, by all means try to get more information. I was trying to say that sometime people spend so much time reading material that contradicts each other that they end up very confused. I am glad that you have decided to stay with Michelle's books. Maybe you have said and I can't remember, have you ever talked to one of the DB coaches about your stitch?

I was glad to hear your determination and PMA in your last post. It even made me feel good to read it. I hope you can keep that frame of mind.

(hug)

Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!