I just caught up with your sitch.. I am sorry about the divorce. You know that is what I went through also. Some need to do this. It just blows my mind.
If this gives you any consolation. They are even more miserable after the big D. Nothing changes until they wake up..
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11