Ahh, thanks girls, wow, conflicting posts though! Lea i'll be with you in a min...
My cat is freaking out...theres no animal noises and there is a partial eclipse (look out the window now!)
tonights convo was not like any others. I never ask R stuff, health stuff, doc stuff, depression stuff (unless he brings it up). I said, my DBing went out the window, I was talking to him like I;d talk to one of my friends, without that filter of what you should and shouldnt say, being caring. I didnt quiz him about hte docs, but I think thats a really interesting point Julia - he doesnt need a mother (he does actually cos shes crap, but no, shouldnt be me). When he said he had a stressy tummy, I acknowledged it back, but didnt ask him what he was stressed about. I'm amazed he told me that much. But you're right.
Also, yes I couldnt see why he couldnt 'relax' with me, but what you said makes sense, that it would take energy he hasnt got. Maybe I should book a DB sesh.
Just thought of something interesting...he never ever says things like, I just want to draw the curtains on the world and stay in...and this eclipse (blocking out the light) is hitting his Sun directly...when I had one of those (they are rare in a lifetime) was last September and I felt like my world wsa ending. So I wonder if in fact he does feel like sh*t and I am taking it too personally.
The most positive thing in my sitch of all is...its been a year and there is still noone else (touch wood), so I havent had to deal with any kind of EA or PA.
