Partner left after 9 yrs - looks the end is nigh

[mishka422]

That is exactly what I'm doing. I'm working toward re-establishing my boundaries. It's a long term goal. It's a matter of unlearning everything that has been ingrained into you in your entire life. If you are interested, the book that is helping me through this is called simply "Boundaries".

You can't look at it as a horrible lesson, but a lesson none the less. Use this for your growth Ali. Rebuild your self-esteem. When you look in the mirror, what do you see that is great about you? What do you want to improve on? What goals do you have for yourself (short term - don't look too far ahead right now)?