Partner left after 9 yrs - looks the end is nigh

[mishka422]

((((Ali)))))

I know you are not going to want to hear this Ali but I'm going to say it anyway our of friendship and concern for you.

He's done. He is a "compliant avoidant". He's aware that you are hurt and struggling but he doesn't see how his actions have anything to do with it really. He keeps apologizing because he hopes that will send your thoughts in another direction but you held on like a dog with a bone.

Don't contact him again for anything. Make him come to you no matter what. Even though he said he'd call you Sunday or Monday - don't expect him to because he most likely won't. He's eternally "ropey". What does that say to you? He's miserable or full of it - one or the other. He makes himself this way and uses it as an excuse to avoid you.

I know it sucks. I know it's nearly impossible to imagine your life without him but it's time. Let him go.

Is there any way you can handle the lease without him? Can he send you permission to sign for him "in absentia" or something of that nature?