Have you thought of bringing up the letter you wrote? Not sure what anyone else might think but maybe you should mention it to her.
I mean maybe it just a stubborn game as in you're thinking "I'm not mentioning it if she doesn't" and she's thinking "I'm not mentioning it he doesn't" and on and on you go...
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Have you thought of bringing up the letter you wrote? Not sure what anyone else might think but maybe you should mention it to her.
I mean maybe it just a stubborn game as in you're thinking "I'm not mentioning it if she doesn't" and she's thinking "I'm not mentioning it he doesn't" and on and on you go...
I am not being stubborn, i said i had no expectations in the letter. Ms Ladybug and others seemed to have said " don't mention it".. what are people's thoughts? I really think after I wrote that, it was the end for me, it took all the remaining feelings and put them on paper thus ending my "grief" and putting me into move on mode
Hi redsawks! I was reading through yr thread and read that beautiful letter that you wrote to your wife. I must say it was really fast how your whole perspective of trying to save your marriage to hanging out with younger girl came about. Just from reading you actually remind me of my close friend (also a Scorpio..lol) that doesn't know how not to be with someone else. She will get out of a bad relationship proclaim that she will stay single until she gets her things straight then 2 days later there is a new guy in the picture whom she will claim is only a friend yet she is attached at the hip to them and buying them gifts!!
I don't know I could be wrong and I might be analyzing your situation too fast but by what you were writing you reminded me of her. It just seems like you are giving up on your marriage to pursue this girl so that you don't have to worry about being "alone".
I'm sorry I don't mean to be harsh and don't take it that way, I am just giving you the perspective of someone looking from the outside in.
Hi redsawks! I was reading through yr thread and read that beautiful letter that you wrote to your wife. I must say it was really fast how your whole perspective of trying to save your marriage to hanging out with younger girl came about. Just from reading you actually remind me of my close friend (also a Scorpio..lol) that doesn't know how not to be with someone else. She will get out of a bad relationship proclaim that she will stay single until she gets her things straight then 2 days later there is a new guy in the picture whom she will claim is only a friend yet she is attached at the hip to them and buying them gifts!!
I don't know I could be wrong and I might be analyzing your situation too fast but by what you were writing you reminded me of her. It just seems like you are giving up on your marriage to pursue this girl so that you don't have to worry about being "alone".
I'm sorry I don't mean to be harsh and don't take it that way, I am just giving you the perspective of someone looking from the outside in.
Nope the more opinions the better.. as a scorpio, yep I don't like being alone.. i haven't given up, but there comes a time. Maybe on day 90 it just struck me as.. ok I am good to go. I have technically been single for 4 months (the last month before the D word hit wasn't that great. I know W sees I have changed for the better, but still thinks i did it for her, not the case at all, it's for me. Anyways as for new girl, well she has issues, as i was told everyone would..(better the dvil u know reference).. and because of those issues, i just want to be friends with her right now. I went out with 2 buddies last night, and had a great fun time. thanks Sep for your 2 cents, it is appreciated as is everyone else's
Hey Sawks: from one Scorp to another, I can relate to that. I DESPISE being alone! In my younger days, I did the same thing but have learned that jumping from one relationship to another doesn't necessarily solve the problmes.
I am glad to see that you are taking things slow with NG, and that you have opted to remain just friends for now. You have done amazing work, but I think that you need to continue working on YOU, so that when the time comes for another R, whether it is with W or not, you will be a jewel that any woman would be lucky to have.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Kudos sawks for the changes and for them being for yourself!!! And I am glad you decided to stay as friends with NG, Lolal is right on the mark in her entire last paragraph.
Hey Sawks: from one Scorp to another, I can relate to that. I DESPISE being alone! In my younger days, I did the same thing but have learned that jumping from one relationship to another doesn't necessarily solve the problmes.
I am glad to see that you are taking things slow with NG, and that you have opted to remain just friends for now. You have done amazing work, but I think that you need to continue working on YOU, so that when the time comes for another R, whether it is with W or not, you will be a jewel that any woman would be lucky to have.
((lola)) thanks.. u gave me shivers up and down my spine just now.. us scorpios are trouble!! lol.. btw ng is scorpio too ha. I thank you, i have worked very hard to get where I am.. and it's only just begun.
Kudos sawks for the changes and for them being for yourself!!! And I am glad you decided to stay as friends with NG, Lolal is right on the mark in her entire last paragraph.
Hi ((sep)).. well my first nice thing was going from size 36 to 33 jeans.. woohoo.. and i am seeing muscles in places i didn't think could have muscles lol.. my gut is gone, and my arms can now scare guys away lol.. funny the worst thing to happen to me is one of the better things to happen to me.. make sense?
Sawks it makes perfect sense!! Same thing here since my sit, I have lost about 20 lbs and am the skinniest I've been in a LONG time. I also like my 180s because I did not like the nagging b.. I had become hopefully H will notice these changes too!!
P.S. H is a Scorpio too...Ahhh I am surrounded by Scorpios!!!! LMAO
You know, Scorps in general are pretty calm, and we keep a lot to ourselves, which I think is why when we decide to show a little bit, it can be A LOT overwhelming!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
