Good reminders! I think I need to start journaling some of the things I can think of to really challenge both of those mindsets but in a way to not put pressure on him. I'm still working hard at surrendering and letting him take the lead by simply backing off and I am making small steps there which seems to be working. I am also trying to be on his side more and not argue his point of view. I'm trying to respect it as the way he thinks instead of trying to find the words that will "magically change his mind" because I can't change the way he thinks and I married him as he is so why am I even trying? Because I'm a control freak who wants everything to go her way. . .I'm working on it!
