Hi redsawks! I was reading through yr thread and read that beautiful letter that you wrote to your wife. I must say it was really fast how your whole perspective of trying to save your marriage to hanging out with younger girl came about. Just from reading you actually remind me of my close friend (also a Scorpio..lol) that doesn't know how not to be with someone else. She will get out of a bad relationship proclaim that she will stay single until she gets her things straight then 2 days later there is a new guy in the picture whom she will claim is only a friend yet she is attached at the hip to them and buying them gifts!!
I don't know I could be wrong and I might be analyzing your situation too fast but by what you were writing you reminded me of her. It just seems like you are giving up on your marriage to pursue this girl so that you don't have to worry about being "alone".
I'm sorry I don't mean to be harsh and don't take it that way, I am just giving you the perspective of someone looking from the outside in.