Went out with the wife and child recently. We had a nice day out and it finished really well with both of us quite happy and contented I think.
She seemed genuinely affectionate at a few points throughout the day but particularly in the evening. We have been physically close for a while now but there has always seemed a part of her that is cut off emotionally. Now she seems to be letting a little part of that emotion back through but the 'big discussion' that is clearly going to have to happen at some point has remained avoided by both of us.
Today she phoned me at work and the topic was risen. She admitted that she has known for a while (over these last few weeks we have gone from not seeing each other at all to small and short dates to long dates with physical intimacy/sex/etc) that we are going to need to talk but that she has avoided it because she hasnt been sure what she wants to say.
The situation, as outlined above, is that I KNOW (although not sure she knows I know) that she is still talking and involved emotionally with the OM.
Now. She has stated today that we need to talk. I am crapping myself.
That said, she has also said that she thinks the fact we should talk is 'positive' and that she has enjoyed spending time together and wants to keep it going.
What I am afraid of is that she is going to balk as soon as I start to mention the OM. I can deal with space, I can deal with taking things slowly (e.g. not moving back in together straight away etc) but I CANNOT and DO NOT think I should have to deal with the fact that the OM remains a part of her life.
PLEASE HELP ME EVERYONE. PLEASE. I AM GOING TO NEED ADVICE AND IDEAS ON WHAT TO SAY IN THIS CONVERSATION.
I will answer any questions any of you have.
I feel this is going to be a turning point. I want to be prepared and do my best to put my case forward ... but with the best possible chance of maintaining the steadily growing contact with my wife.
I wanted to add that as much of our progress has been positive it is constantly tempered with cause for concern. For instance: my wife has stated that she likes 'time alone', that she doesn't want to see me 'all the time' (fine.. but remember the OM is still being contacted). Secondly, her behaviour can be quite erratic. At times she wants me to stay and be around her and then, suddenly, within a matter of hours, can change her mind and say 'we'll see' if asked about a date that only a few hours previously she had been insisting happen.
