It is sad that he doesn't come around except on his scheduled times. I am not sure why, he had always been very involved in the girls. When he missed putting them to be one night b/c he was out he would be so upset. Now he goes days without seeing them. Maybe he is uncomfortable but I have been nothing but nice, upbeat, friendly, joking, no R talk. I don't even ask him what he is doing which is soooo hard for me.
As far as calling during a crisis, this is the first. I really don't hear from him at all except when we talk at night before the girls go to bed and on pick ups and drop offs.
I feel that ever since the talk he had with me and he let his guard down big time, he is doing to me what I have been doing to him. He is nice, friendly, but does not offer any info on what he is doing anymore. Very generic just that he has plans. He has not asked what I have been doing either. Do you think that it is backfiring now. I have been doing this for 1 1/2 mos. I don't know if he is waiting for me to make a move or if he is still testing me.
He did make a comment to me that he thought that I really understood where he was coming from but he wasn't sure he thought that I might just be saying what I know he wants to hear to see if he will bite. I think he is very guarded and the walls are built, hurricane proof I think!
A big complaint he had in our M was that I never took the lead to plan activities or get a sitter for the girls so we could spend time together. I have the girls this weekend and on tonight I am going out with some friends and I got a sitter. We aren't leaving until later so the girls with be in bed. Do you think I should tell my H I got a sitter? I feel so guilty, this is a big part of our problem.
Me-30 H-30 M-6yrs T-14yrs Twin D's-2 Bomb-1/01/08 Left Home 2/01/08 (rented a room) Back Home 4/02/08 Left Home 5/08/08 (moved into own apt.) OW-21 5/29/08
