Have you thought of bringing up the letter you wrote? Not sure what anyone else might think but maybe you should mention it to her.
I mean maybe it just a stubborn game as in you're thinking "I'm not mentioning it if she doesn't" and she's thinking "I'm not mentioning it he doesn't" and on and on you go...
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*