I know I went a little crazy when I found about X's affair. Luckily I had a great friend and her hubby that took me under their wing and let me tag along on some of their date nights. It got me out of the house AND I had a great chaperone who made sure I knew the bus boy was not a good catch, no matter how cute he was and how he was smiling at me...nothing wrong with bus boys, mind you. Just sayin'

It is an esteem issue. I was so sure no one would ever want me again, I needed reassurance and I needed it NOW!

I tell you No Hill, it's a feast or famine issue. When it rains it pours. I want what she's got. Hey, if she thinks he's ok, he must be ok, I think I want a piece of that. Heck, it works for married men all the time, right?

I'm not an expert, but I've been there. And I survived.