Hey Lola. I think you're right. We'll see I guess. I hadn't thought about it, but we won't be able to ML anymore anyway because she is having surgery monday and will have a long recovery. I think the only time we would be able to do anything would be sunday evening, and if we did, I wouldn't let things get intimate.
I did get a text from her today in response to me apologizing for falling asleep last night. She said that I needed to stop staying up so late. She was joking of course, because I stayed up late due to our conversation. I said it was her fault. I didn't expect a response, but she did, saying that she was getting ready to go out of town for the weekend. She is meeting her new guy and staying somewhere with him tonight, and then heading to meet his father tomorrow, and then they are heading to her sister's on sunday. She said she would talk to me after her surgery. I told her to have a good weekend and would pray for her surgery. She said thanks. We chatted for a little bit more and then that was it. I did tell her to not be surprised if I sent her a random text or two over the weekend. She didn't reply to that directly, but it didn't seem to change the convo any and she kept right on talking to me. So I think it went over well. I haven't talked to her since. The good thing is that I don't feel the urge to, so maybe I can just be dark for the weekend and see if she msgs me at all this weekend, or Sunday when she gets home.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
She is supposed to be spending the weekend with her new guy. She said she would talk to me on Monday after her surgery on Monday. Well a few minutes ago, I got a text from her, asking if I was out tonight. I replied by telling her I wasn't and I had my kids and I asked why. She said she was just curious. I asked what she was up to and she told me she was taking a break and went to starbucks. I replied by saying that I thought she was with Aaron tonight. I didn't get a reply for quite some time and I sent her another text asking if she was ok. I haven't received a reply to that either.
I can't figure out why she is texting me while she is with him. It made me curious as to if she had gone to starbucks without him. Her not replying makes me think that she is with him, but was alone for a minute and texted me, but he got back and so she didn't respond. I hate this because I was fine until she sent me a text, and now I'm curious as to what is going on. I shouldn't be, and I should let it go. I was fine, and I need to just forget about it.
I have been playing second fiddle, as was pointed out a while ago, and I don't want to play second fiddle anymore. I thought I was doing well with that, but maybe I'm not. I guess that's a goal to set for myself. I shouldn't be so readily available.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
I am reading your thread but I have no idea what to tell you. All I know is I don't understand her and why she doesn't dump Aaron and marry YOU!!! She's a DAW if there ever was one.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
She did finally text me at 1:30 this morning saying she was ok and yes she was with him...she'd talk to me tomorrow. I was asleep so I didn't get it until this morning, and I didn't respond.
I thought she wasn't going to talk to me until monday...
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
Amen to that Jen!!!! Floyd, your XGF is definitely DEFINITELY doing some serious soul searching. I think that just the fact that she is texting YOU while she is with him shows that. I have a great feeling that she is really rethinking her decision. Sometimes, its all about "you don't know what you've got 'til its gone" and that may be where she is at right now.
I am keeping my fingers crossed!!!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
That's kind of nice to know, but it doesn't really help me move on too much...LOL
I did send her a text a little while ago because I noticed that olympic badminton was on and we had joked about it earlier. She replied, we had a laugh and that was it.
I had planned to just let her go this weekend and not contact her at all, but she kind of stirred me up by texting me last night. I think it's best that I don't talk to her the rest of the weekend unless she contacts me. So that's the plan for now.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
Floyd, do you ever notice that sometimes our brains need a rest? We are so consumed with all of this, that we just get exhausted. I find one of the keys is when I get to that point, to just remember your emotions are like any other part of your body, and just need a break. Relax and take some time for you. If your body gets tired, it doesn't work properly, does it? The brain is the same.
(((Floyd))) you are a great guy!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I do notice that Lola. You're exactly right. Thanks for the hugs and the compliment. Sometimes a little reassurance is nice.
She sent me a text and asked me if I could call her. (odd again right?) I didn't get it right away, and then when I saw it, it took me a few minutes to make the call, but I did.
She is super stressed and wanted to talk to me. She was driving back home to drop off her car and then heading to her sisters. He was following her. There were ups and downs in the convo as always. She wanted to vent about him. She didn't really open up a lot at first. I told her I could tell she was stressed, but I didn't know what I could ask her. She told me it was guy problems, and then finally told me what it was. It was several things. Of course there's the sexual issues, and that he doesn't touch her at all. She said he's very self concience about his body and has made comments about when they go out, he get's the look from people. Like "Why is she with him kinda look." She asked me if I ever thought people did that to me. I told her that she know's how I am... I pretty much just go along without thinking about what other people think. There was a lot of other little things too that she wanted to vent about, and I listened. She said she didn't know who to talk to, and so she wanted to talk to me.
Some of the downs were her talking about him, and her stress, but not really making comments that she was having second thoughts about me. She talked like she wanted to date around if it didn't work out with him, but as usuall, she contradicted herself by making a few other comments.
Some of the ups were that she told me she was frustrated last night, and ran to starbucks. That's when she text me. She said she was checking in...and shouldn't, but she wanted to. (contradicts her attitude from the downs). She said her mother had given her two books to read. One was the five languages of love. She was surprised when I said I had read it and knew the author. The other was something about how to not have an affair during your marriage. She said, "#1, move away from (me)." I just laughed at that.
That was about it. I told her about my dad trying to set me up with that girl. She gave me a hard time about that a bit. It was all lighhearted. I told her that if she needed to talk, she could call me or something. She said something about it being something I didn't want to hear. I told her that I was always around to listen. She said she knew.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
