Hey WAWed, you've hit the nail on the head. For each of us, I believe that one of the lessons of DB is that we have value too and that at some place we are more valuable than the R. I always think to how would I react to someone who is clingy and needy? In the same vein, how would I react to someone who always gave in and never stood up for themselves? Sure, I want my way, but, at the same time, I know when I'm being unreasonable and so do our WASs. If we refuse to let them walk all over us, we regain some small bit of respect. Things may or may not turn out how we wish, but, we will regain some modicum of respect.
Another thing that helps me sometimes is to imagine W is about 15 because that's the way she behaves sometimes.
