Karen, you voiced what I think. I think when we get left by someone who paints our marriage as something that was awful from the get-go, we wonder. But we all know it was an excuse to run off and have an affair. We know that Karen. We weren't in control of that. They want to make themselves feel better for what they do, and they have to condemn us to do that. In my mind, that tells me that these people never loved us enough. Never loved us like they should have. Just because we never knew that does not make us bad people or wrong. We didn't know Karen. And I know what you mean when you say B is so patient. And I know what you mean when you say that you once thought your X was the same way. But in reality, my X was not. Not ever really. If I look back realistically (which is hard). So I choose to believe that when a man tells me he knows how I feel and listens to me - well - I never really got that from my X. So he gave me a gift. The gift is allowing me to hear that from another human being. How sweet.
Enjoy your son this weekend Karen. One of mine left yesterday. Tears all around. One baby gone, but the other is still here. My how time flies.
