"... later yelling at me & threatening to throw his phone out the window, then to crying and not wanting to get off the phone..."
wow- i didnt know it was this extreme..has it always been like this?
We've always had somewhat of a tumultuous R, but not usually that extreme, no. H NEVER usually cries, but he's cried several times with me since the bomb. I'm no longer as much of a hothead (thanks to DB) and he is much more of one, with more erratic swings.
I think ML just sent him into a major tailspin of confusion over his own feelings, and he just needed to yell at me, I suppose to better convince me and himself that it was a mistake, we're over, to create distance again, but then lament when I completely agreed with him. These experiences with him have taught me that completely agreeing with him about everything is the only way to derail his anger.
Originally Posted By: pisces9
thats great you have plans to keep yourself healthy and active- i like that idea of planning each hour...how does it work?
You take a piece of paper and write out two columns for each day and plan your activities hour by hour, you can even predict how much you will like or dislike doing each one. Then you go back at the end of the day and write down what you actually did hour by hour, and rate how much you actually liked or disliked doing each one, and then compare.
What I like about it is that you are consciously thinking about what you do each day and what it means to you/the pleasure it brings you.
I'll let you know how it goes...:)
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
