Yeah, her plans hurt me less every day, but I had to decide to not let them do so in order for me to move forward. It took some work to change my thought paths.
Lola, we weren't married. I have been married once, and DBed through it. I met my XGF after my divorce and have been with her since (off and on a few times) ... five years next month.
I was thinking that not ML would be best for both of us. I know that she has remorse after every time. She made a comment yesterday...kind of asking, "This is our last time, right?" Not sure why she would form that as a question, but it's almost like she was saying that she couldn't resist and I needed to not initiate anything. So my thinking here is this. ML is a very emotionally attached thing for myself also. I've never been a sex with just anyone kind of guy. So stopping it would benefit me in the way that I wouldn't be feeling attachment while intimate. She kind of builds up some desire for sex, or myself, for quite some time before we end up giving in and ML. Then it's instant remorse. So I'm wondering if I didn't give in and ML that she will continue to have increased desire for me. Not sure. Not that I'm wanting to create a ploy to make her do so, but I was wondering what the outcome would be from her end.
FLoyd The grass is always GREENER over the septic tank.
