Giving up....why not...he did!

[Dom R]

He says...both of us weren't nice to eachother. What the hell does that mean? Then he says he needs to go home...I say this is your home (I know I know...dumb response)...he shakes his head and says it never felt like my home. Again...what is going on in his head???

i'd suggest... that you ask him.
Ask him why it "never felt like his home".
Ask him what was missing for him. Or what was too much.

Also, is the sex thing just him "servicing me"??????

In some ways, you shouldnt worry about that. If you enjoy it, and he's "ok" with giving it to you... then I suggest that you just be really, really happy and appreciative when he chooses to do that "for you". So long as it doesnt seem like he is "sacrificing" anything, or gives that attitude.
Lets be honest.. except for very extreme cases, when a guy has sex, he enjoys it. We're fairly simple creatures Your H probably doesnt want to admit that he enjoys it too.

But certainly also, give him lots of non-sexual appreciation. Clearly, this is a worry for him. So... reassure him there too.

there's a fine line between "pursuing", and.... Umm... "being available"? Sounds like your husband actually wants you to be "available" to him. it sounds like he wants to pursue you himself, but for some reason, doesnt feel quite comfortable doing so.

So... i might suggest to keep giving him opportunities to do so, but without pushing it. "opportunities", rather than "obligations", and you need to be ok on those times he declines an opportunity.

i havent followed your story much.. but it sounds to me like your husband is actually fairly "close" to you still. You are very lucky.

he's understandably gunshy about "the last time". So... take things slow, and figure out for yourself what "doing it right this time" would mean?