Grant, I don't feel that I should be giving anyone advice. So I'll make an observation:
When I read your posts I get that there is alot of focus on "her". Now I get how this is...I'm right there with you bro, but I feel the best about my own sitch when I focus on me.
Hang in there. We're all here for you.
Me:34 W:31 d's 5 & 10 M: 5 years, T: 8, Bomb1 3/8/08,#2:3/28/08 Asked 4 D:4/19/08, discovered PA 5/8/08,W moved out 6/30/08 W pregnant by OM: 2/17/08