KS: I have seen some people react this way following their split. It has to do with your self esteem being shattered. It is not something I could do but I've learned that everyone handles their devestation differently.
So, one dates as many as possible, one goes after a married man who worked with her H, perhaps in an attempt to get the ex to notice, some won't date ANYONE for fear of further hurt. I find myself somewhere in the middle of these extremes.
My suggestions are:
Take your time to heal yourself.
Figure out what you want for yourself.
Love yourself on your own before venturing out there.
Set standards for yourself and don't stray from them.
Allow yourself to grieve - it is OK! Don't give in to everyone trying to push you to move on to new Rs.
Set a good example for your children. They've learned some bad from one parent. Try to make what they learn from you the best.
Always be polite and show respect. If you are NOT interested - don't lead someone on. But don't throw rocks either.
