Dar I know that my h reconnected more with the kids first. Way back he would say things like I am only coming over for the kids, but most recently when the kids were gone he said he would come over and hang out with me.
I am not sure about the one up on you. I just think they have guilt and they want to spend time with the kids doing something they would enjoy together. I heard the dinosour thing is really good, but we couldn't afford it either.
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