My W became a stranger to me. I was actually amazed at how unaffected I was by her actions and behavior. And I believe it was made possible by her leaving the house.
In reality, it was my detachment that brought her back. She wanted to know why I was "ignoring" her. She wasn't being ignored, she was just another person in passing to me.
I'm not saying that your W will come running back to you from your detachment. I felt so much better about myself when I was detached. I was able to live my life worry-free as far as my W was concerned.
Very powerful post poohbear. Very powerful. Indeed frank..he is correct. When your W does something...and you lower the newspaper..peer over your glasses...then put the newspaper back up and continue reading...you are there.
Many of us feign detaching. Many of us confuse it with 'ignoring them', cold shouldering them. It is FAR beyond that. It is literally letting go and being able to recognize the richness of your life and moving forward with it. I, too, read your posts...and they are still filled with hurt.
Grieve it. Give it up. Let it go.
Originally Posted By: Dalai Lama
Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
