I can only imagine that ups and downs that that must have put you through. I know that it was not perfect but I think it was progress at lest as far as him feeling comfortable around you. Remember to only look at his actions and not his words. He is getting closer to you. I think that the pulling back is totally normal. However it does not replace progress. Right after my wife pulled back she was right back to being friendly and even more comfortable then before.
I think that validating his performance is a perfect idea. Every man thinks in his mind that he is God’s gift to woman in the bedroom and if a woman supports that he feels like he is the king of the world. I imagine that a man with his problems would appreciate that even more. Remember that this is a new R so trust everything he tells you without holding the past against him until he proves other wise. Only hold on to the good from this experience. For a little while you got to be close to him, let that recharge your batteries and give you the strength to press.
At least it did not go the other way. At this point if I was to ML to my W I would be like an excited high school kid and it would be over in two seconds, where’s the fun in that. Just kidding but I think that with all that is going on the important part is the closeness not the sex. Good sex regardless of any issues takes closeness and understanding of the other person so don’t worry if that was not how you’ve pictured it.
Me 27, W26 T-12 M-4 SEP 4/29/08 Holding 250 miles Awaiting Support Current
