Thanks Puppy. Even if the path I choose of distancing myself while he has OW may have gotten me to this point, I was willing to take the consequences, knowing it wouldn't sit well with him.
Nice to hear from you Forrest, I've missed you.
~"Post the letter (agreement) here or there."
The letter he refers to is actually "The Offer" he gave me (& took back & gave me) a while back. How he would like to settle financially. I guess he wants to hear some feedback before he files, b/c as he says, he doesn't like surprises. Isn't it usually the other way around?
~"Sneaky DAM.. he is waiting on you to make the decision. And he does not understand the full impact of his "Sneakiness".. Are you still in the palm of his hand? Or.. do you still want to be with him?"
Yes, I got that with the question of how long I wanted this limbo state to go on...as if it was me keeping it there.
~"you gotta make a choice. Understand the outcome of your choices. Either way you go.. it is gonna hurt."
What choices do you see?
When I crested the hill on the way home today, I was hit with a sudden "You have mail" feeling, even as I had been thinking/feeling that he was missing me & moving away from OW. I am still a little shocked that he's making this move right now, although maybe I shouldn't be.
I'm not a give up person, it sure is being tested though.
I saw that OW lost her home to the bank a couple of weeks ago, I think the pressure may be on to have H move into something more suitable now. If I didn't have such a cow about him moving a few blocks away, I'm sure he'd be taking that place. I'm not backing away from that boundary, no matter what is threatened.
He seems to still be under the influence of the affair addiction.
"If you have been involved in a romantic love affair, it is normal for you to doubt your love for your spouse. I have heard hundreds of unfaithful partners say to the injured spouse, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you."
"Keep in mind that when you compare your affair partner with your spouse, you are not really comparing two individuals. What you are comparing is how it feels to be in an idealized, romantic relationship with how it feels to be in a reality-based, long-term relationship."
