"Last night when he was here for S5, he seemed bothered by me having to go somewhere & the lack of attention I was paying him."
I think this may play into the "control" factor some. If you take it away.. the other person will respond in weird ways.
"I had a house that I could have taken in the cliffs and at your request I am willing to let it go but I need to know what your response is to my letter to you."
If the letter is posted here.. point me to it.. if not.. show it to me.
"The gap between us feels huge most of the time and I don't think we should stay like this anymore.
Please let me know when we can meet or if you prefer please respond by e mail. I am open to any reasonable alternative to what I out in my letter."
That right there.. is a prime example of NFC what to say!
"H said he's tired of being in limbo, I'll probably never forgive him for what he's done & there would always be tension in the house. Besides, he can't "picture" us back together, we just don't "click". As soon as I look thru the offer & we come to agreement, he will file, not to worry, he knows I've been patient & done everything I can to avoid this. How long did I intend on going on this way, a month, 6 months, a year."
Sneaky DAM.. he is waiting on you to make the decision. And he does not understand the full impact of his "Sneakiness".. Are you still in the palm of his hand? Or.. do you still want to be with him?
"My response was all DB, ending with, "If that's what you want, really, there's nothing I can do to stop you. Know that I had a lot of fun in our marriage & see a lot to give up."
Jenny... you gotta make a choice. Understand the outcome of your choices. Either way you go.. it is gonna hurt.
"I said I'd forward him the information to think about.
H-Okay."
Post the letter (agreement) here or there.
I like the name!
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
