How does a caged creature learn freedom? I helped make the cage I lived in often crouching in insecurity and fear. Now I get to walk without its boundaries. I just have to learn that me doing it, taking responsibility as my own, on my own is a good thing. *hugs*
It's called learned helplessness.
""Learned helplessness is a psychological condition in which a human being or an animal has learned to act or behave helpless in a particular situation, even when it has the power to change its unpleasant or even harmful circumstance.
Learned helplessness theory is the view that clinical depression and related mental illness result from a perceived absence of control over the outcome of a situation"""
Our respective cage has been gone for a while now, we just had been in it for so long, that learning to walk out of it is frightening. But, the view without the bars is glorious.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
