Yes, I have got sucked into his drama and never put a boundary up to him and allowed him to behave as he pleases, and I am always accepting. I dont care if its me that burns the bridge, maybe there is a part of him thats not "done", maybe not, but maybe I am ! Like I said, he almost over explains, and yet, he's not here is he? 9 months later and he's still half an hour up the road. Its also nearly a year since he told me he wasnt sure we had a future, even before he left. I think I am nearing the end of my tether, my limit.

Maybe I will just go buy that dog I always wanted !! Dogs dont let you down :-)

Naej - thats funny! You are right. Yep, his life is a social whirl. I feel exhausted even hearing about all the things he was telling me earlier, neverlone drinking through all that socialising. No wonder he is so tired !!!

About your H...maybe it has ended with teh woman he ran off with? If he found her around the time of that Feb 1999 eclipse. Can you do some snooping and find out? I would ! Night to you and thankyou for being there for me this evening. And Where and Lisa!! You really really helped. I finally found my fire...