H came back from 10 days out of town. During that time I kept up the "only about the kids" & put S5 right on w/out me talking at all. In every conversation, he asked where S5 had spent the night, who was he with now, etc.
From his behavior when he came back, it seemed that he had missed us & there was no mention of "moving forward".
Last night when he was here for S5, he seemed bothered by me having to go somewhere & the lack of attention I was paying him.
So, today I was greeted with this e-mail;
Quote:
We probably should try to meet and move forward. I know this is hard for me. And for you. I had a house that I could have taken in the cliffs and at your request I am willing to let it go but I need to know what your response is to my letter to you. Yes, I know what this means but I don't know what else to do. The gap between us feels huge most of the time and I don't think we should stay like this anymore.
Please let me know when we can meet or if you prefer please respond by e mail. I am open to any reasonable alternative to what I out in my letter.
I called him to ask a few questions;
Just received your e-mail & wanted to clear up a few thing's I don't understand. What does renting the house have to do with our financial agreement?
H-Well, you said if I moved near you, you were going to start getting tough on me.
Me-Not financially, I meant we were not going to be "friends".
-I have to P/U my kids, so I'll condense it to the bottom line;
H said he's tired of being in limbo, I'll probably never forgive him for what he's done & there would always be tension in the house. Besides, he can't "picture" us back together, we just don't "click". As soon as I look thru the offer & we come to agreement, he will file, not to worry, he knows I've been patient & done everything I can to avoid this. How long did I intend on going on this way, a month, 6 months, a year.
My response was all DB, ending with, "If that's what you want, really, there's nothing I can do to stop you. Know that I had a lot of fun in our marriage & see a lot to give up. I will ask you to do one thing before we go down that road, go to one weekend of Retrouvaille together. That's a couple of days out of our lives. Then if you still want to end our M, I'll know that we at least tried something before subjecting the kids to growing up with a D'd family & all that goes with it."
The response was 2 or three minutes of silence.
I said I'd forward him the information to think about.
